Man listen, everybody that you love is not meant to see the world with you. I know sometimes you get tired of going places alone, entertaining yourself, talking to strangers and whatnot but wouldn’t you rather do that than waste your money dealing with people that will ruin your trip and, most importantly, waste your money? The Bible says the only way a relationship will survive is if you’re equally yoked. My mom says you will have friends that will serve a purpose for certain needs you have in life. It’s okay to let someone play their position. Here are some signs to let you know if the person would be a trash travel buddy.
1. Do you want to hang with them in your hometown?
I do not like hanging with people for the sake of hanging with people. I do not like wasting my time or my energy so if I don’t pick up the phone for someone to do a local activity, chances are I do not want to be trapped with them out of town. Don’t be desperate for company.
2. Are they always crying broke?
In Cuba, this came up after the robbery, Carla and I both ended up broke. We were scraping together spare change just to get to the airport. It was a mess. You don’t want to travel with a broke person because you never know what might happen. Broke people tend to travel with the bare necessities. If you are in a jam, you are going to be in a jam by your damn self.
3. Do you have the same ideas about traveling?
Just like the Bible says about marital partnerships. You need to be equally yoked. Are you a person that loves adventure or a laid back person? This is important because while one of you may be thrill seeking, the other might be trying to collect Postcards, sip drinks on the beach and read a book. The only way this will work is if you want to balance each other out. Otherwise, you’re going to be bored lying on the beach like a soccer mom because the boring person always wins.
4. How do they behave?
This is important for me. Especially abroad. I don’t ever want to be categorized as a shitty uncultured piece of shit American. Is your friend hot headed? Do they fight after the club like my college roommates from Memphis? You don’t want to be in another city let alone another country with someone that cannot abide by the law. I can’t get stuck nowhere. I travel on my off days so I will notify your family and go on home.
5. Do they have your back?
It’s nothing worse than planning a trip with someone. Board the plane hype, get off the plane hype and then they leave you high and dry. They don’t want to hang. They let you walk dark streets alone. They ditch you in a bar. Traveling alone as a woman is always scary but when I choose a person to die with I expect to die with them. Sorry not sorry.
I tend to look at this behavior throughout a relationship. If you know your friend is selfish, a loose cannon and wouldn’t let you borrow $5 for gas even though they riding in the passenger seat with the tank on E? Give them a hard pass. Traveling is already expensive. Don’t make any expensive mistakes.